Wow. Wooooow. Okay, so 50 shades of fucked up already bothered me for infinity reasons that have been well explored just about everywhere. But this video particularly nails it. Handy bonus for Andy victims – how well does this line up for your experience with him? Because it’s damn near perfect for me, and I’ll go ahead and say it was pretty much dead on for Diamond’s experience too (I mean, I WAS there, and she IS one of my closest friends)
Someday when my head is clearer and I have more time I’ll have to post about the last relationship I was in. Because…ugh. Literally all of this, including the twisted abusive version of bdsm.
I WONDER WHY
“It’s only fiction”, they say.
Before Jaws hit theaters in 1975, great white sharks weren’t the villains we now believe them to be. But when the movie–which was purely fiction–became a blockbuster, it directly caused humans to seek out and kill sharks, causing widespread population drops in shark species across the board. The influence of that piece of fiction (coincidentally also based on a novel) even coined its own name: The Jaws Effect. When Vladimir Nabokov’s Lolita was published, it was perceived by the public to be an erotic novel, despite the fact that it told the story of child sexual abuse through the viewpoint of an unreliable narrator. The result? To this day, we refer to sexually precocious teen girls as “Lolitas,” despite the author’s intent. Yes, 50 Shades of Grey is fiction, but fiction isn’t created or consumed in a vacuum. It is influenced by our culture, and influences our culture, and 50 Shades of Grey isn’t an exception. Even though something is “just fiction,” it can still have detrimental effects on society or expose problems that already exist in our perceptions. So when someone says “50 Shades of Grey promotes abuse as romance,” they’re not saying, “50 Shades of Grey is a totally real thing that happened and is a cautionary tale.” They’re saying that this work of fiction is having, or has the potential to create, real world effects.
Which is also why we needed to point out everything wrong with TDW.
Me: Hey want to act out a scene from 50 Shades?
Me: Okay I choose the one where you buy me a brand new Audi
I love that most of the mail I got while I was gone was some variation on “We miss you!!” or “Are you okay? Come back!” (thanks, btw!!!!). And then there was this one.
the fact that the 50 Shades of Grey movie is being marketed on Tumblr at ALL is proof Yahoo has no idea what goes on on this website