Also Romeo and Juliet are a couple that killed themselves.

Don’t aim for fictional relationships

Aim for a real one.

Harley’s love for the Joker and her willingness to tolerate his abuse was always very deliberately presented to be deeply unhealthy and tragic: 

The Joker is not her love interest – he is her origin story. He is what formed her and made her the person she is today – but he is NOT her love interest, he is her abuser.

And in later arcs, she has left him behind for good: 

She is now in a happy polyamorous relationship with Poison Ivy and a new character, Mason.

Harley Quinn has grown so much over the years, and I am really proud of her as a character and think she showed so much strength to grow past her obsession with the Joker and become her own woman, totally true to herself and refusing to have her narrative revolve around someone else’s life. 

So if you look up to Harley Quinn and see yourself in her, I think that’s great, but Harley Quinn isn’t amazing because she’s obsessed with the Joker, Harley Quinn is amazing because Harleen Quinzel is amazing. 

Don’t forget:






Harley & Ivy

This is why I love them!

Harley is an abuse survivor of course she’d wreck this dude!!!

Can I just say how much I love the implications here?

Harley and Ivy are known public figures. People know who they are, and recognize them. And this kid knows that, despite being violent criminals, they’re safe enough to go to for protection.

Ivy is dead certain that the Batfamily will be okay with them intervening to protect a kid. That has some intersting implications – either she knows damn well where the lines lie and that this is overriding enough to get her a pass, or (more likely, given the first bit) this has come up before.

one of my favorite tropes is villains acting heroically not because the other villain is a threat to them or because it benefits them, but because they have standards